When a loved one dies at a Holiday Season

Blessed with a fine classic American Family, and plenty of them, Christmas was full of all the activities that are thought traditional and each year, it seemed one more thing we might do or pray or sing or visit!

Then life Changed - the star on top of my Christmas tree was my beautiful husband - we enjoyed the best ever Christmas Wedding and it stayed like that all year long with us; and the years we enjoyed so well together glowed and grew in worth, till his early and sudden death one July morning.

That first Christmas without him was not easy for me, broken hearted, or for our two early teens, son and daughter, without their Dad, and tears instead of laughter for the first time in their lives. But we DID it! Our emotions were a mess, but we became “Team Family” fast and created a number of things, drawing on our accumulated glow, to save the day and Save the Season and bring the celebration back fast. But it had been six months since our grief, and we were off the 911 list for grief-shock care, and we could do it, we were ready.

Not so easy when we lose a close other AT the Winter Holidays….at best, the work of closure and rites and funeral and estate actions - tiring and conflicted grieving and celebration at once. At best, one accepts the idea that “This Christmas is beautiful but quieter than usual”, as we pick our way carefully along the tricky path.

We lost a close one of the “Kidz on the Block” and our Mother last Christmas - one was too young and the other so happy to be meeting loved ones in heaven ahead of her, after a grand long life of 92 years!

Still, Christmas was definitely different last year and at this first anniversary of their passing, it’s still a bit quiet by choice, but then our family rules say we must put it away.

Today’s way with life and death can be too cold for many, and some places in society will give you 72 hours to get over it, while others, tied to the past, demand you wear mourning for the rest of your life.

It is never easy, but not impossible. Most of us take this moment in things to sort it out and choose the good thing to do - the thing that WORKS - the thing does the right job by ourselves and others, the thing that leads to the best healing path possible, the thing that empowers closure.


National Pumpkin Day - supping Pumpkin soup and more!

For National Pumpkin Day    QUICK AND HAPPY FOOD FUN:  

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instant pumpkin soup and other ideas:

 - preheat oven to 400F.  

  • Using any orange pumpkin - large, small, spagetti or classic

  • Quarter, seed/clean pumpkin. Save seeds and process as you wish, or discard.

  • Bake, inside-down, in a large roaster, with the sections nested to form a sort of tent, if you can with some water in the pan for just a bit of moisture as it bakes. Test with fork after 30 minutes, but may take an hour...will smell right :-) ( option: if you like the spice aroma while it bakes, go ahead and sprinkle some at it - cinnamon, nutmeg, ginger, cloves, allspice, and a sprikle of salt - nice smells. But plain is fine, too)

  • When done, allow to cool, then scoop out the pumpkin and discard the shell, soft or hard. Now the fun begins and is easy:

  • Nearly Instant Pumpkin SOUP happens in under 5 minutes:

  • Place some of the baked pumpkin in your smoothie maker or processor , with enough water to make it "go" easily - and pulse till smooth.

  • Place in dish or soup bowl , add spices and butter to taste and heat till hot. Bubbly can get messy and burn you with splashing, but if it feels witchy-tasty, go ahead.

  • THAT'S IT - just plain tasty and wildly nourishing, too!

OPTIONS:  Add a meat stock or hot dogs or sliced carrots or peas or beans, potato...whatever... use your imagination.  BUT TASTE-TEST  IT IN A SMALL AMOUNT OF THE SOUP FIRST, BEFORE ADDING IT TO THE WHOLE AMOUNT, in case your imagination is not quite on the mark and  it fails in flavor.

ORRRR  ...more fun with all that pumpkin:
 - Side dish VEGETABLE - serve in chunks or loosely fork mashed as you would any other squash
- smoothed to thick chunks like apple sauce, sweetened and spiced, even HOTspices,  alongside a thing.
- I have not tried to make pumpkin chips but I'll bet they could be done, with the baking stopped while the pumpkin was still  part-firm, so it could be sliced and quick fried or broiled. Butter and salt if you like.  maybe?

And of course
- PUMPKIN PIE - follow any pumpkin pie recipe  for pies or tarts.

- Cookies and muffins and cupcakes and pumpkin bread or cake - delicious and colorful health.

YES.. especially if you baked a large pumpkin:  use some/ freeze some, by simply putting a few cups into a freezer baggie.  I have no idea how soon to use it because mine has never been there long.  :-D   

Here is a link to the "National Day Calendar" for  a Happy National Pumpkin Day! - and more recipes, too!

17 Years later - 18 Ninelevens - And the List is still Undone

 “Raising the Flag at Ground Zero”  by Elle Fagan - sold and donated to share in Ventura California Schools -  Dan McWilliams, George Johnson, Bill Eisengrein in the iconic moment  ”Never Forget”

“Raising the Flag at Ground Zero” by Elle Fagan - sold and donated to share in Ventura California Schools - Dan McWilliams, George Johnson, Bill Eisengrein in the iconic moment
”Never Forget”

At Nineleven, a list was done up in a heartbeat - what happened, what could have prevented it, and what needs doing so that response and prevention will work better if it happens again! Not much is done yet - so we need to engage and email our leaders and help to GET IT DONE.

Just to name a few - no special details:

  1. Better intelligence - we should have known and intercepted.

  2. Better protection of major terrorist targets - I still pray for the response pilot whose health collapsed after tearing up from Washington to intercept , and there was not time. There was supposed to be someone nearby, but recession cutbacks meant that Manhattan was an easy hit.

  3. Response tech with synced channels for crises across the entire response world. “The left hand did not know what the right hand was doing” at Ground Zero. Our superhero responders were lost, calling in data and reinforcements - without communications - lost and added to the casualties.

  4. Better health and fitness, diet and equipment and ARMOR and non-deadly weapons to apprehend without killing bystanders…for all responders

  5. MOST OF ALL: as a girl I saw the pods and other plans for rapid escape from planes and tall buildings: too much for 1956, but should have been DONE by 1976 and so in 2001, with no strong sure hi-tech escape and support till rescue might arrive, all those people died. There is a special place in the Devil’s home for those who suppressed that project….and continue to suppress it, when today, it’s easy and do-able by a dozen pathways and affordable. Details on request.

    We won’t be forgiven, now that we know better, we must confront and win and inform the public and team with the world on these goals, and stop playing a defensive old-fashioned game - yesterday’s tools will not fix today’s works.

    My wish and prayer is for EMPOWERMENT for all the people and powers needed to achieve in the Third Millennium. Please.

    Thomas Paine said it in his famous “Peace in our Time” to the man who said he loved his children but would not act to protect, create and uphold a safe world for them. Love is an action word.

Buying Art

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You may read about million-dollar art sales and declare, "I don't buy art - way out of my reach or interest! "     But a World of  Really Nice ORIGINAL ART is out there and here at ellefagan.com.    

You browse and enjoy the discovery of an art work that you desire. You buy it and it is YOURS.  You may find the feeling not much different than that enjoyed by million-dollar art sales - better sometimes:  you get to love the art and make it part of you and keep a lot more of your money.  ( smile ) 

The money spent on a fine arts purchase is ALWAYS well-spent and NEVER WASTED.   If you buy it and love it - bliss!      

ORRRR..  enjoy it for a bit, then pass it on as  a deductible gift  to a friend or donation to your church or club's fundraiser - it will be appreciated and never a financial loss to you.   Some buy varied artworks and shift them about at change of season, or to enhance a special event or holiday.  So many ways to let fine art enrich your life.  
ONE caution: avoid gifting or donating really large works - too often it is tooooo much and then the recipient feels pressed to receive it and figure out what to DO with it.  But most small works do DELIGHT as a gift or donation and be sure to tell the recipient to "pass it on" to keep the spirit alive in it.  Works. 

Even at first purchase of a major work, from the artist, the money is NOT a impediment.  Pay in payments, or use escrow.com to hold the cash or art till everyone is happy.   SAFE - very safe that way.
For modestly-priced items like the ones at my site, it is no strain and  there are discounts available. Choose your  work , contact the artist and get your code to enter a the checkout - done and done!


1. Tax included in sale price + Free Shipping in USA - no code required.    ALWAYS to continental American addresses,   on all artwork at the site and offline, too.  NOT always  applicable to International rates.  Higher shipping rates sometimes make it not possible to offer free shipping internationally.

2. TAAF -  cause for The Aneurysm and AVM Foundation. Gets the thing that got my husband. 

3. Tiny Miracles - another favorite - they help premature babies and their families. Today's way with the fixes for the frequent birth defects would have found and fixed an aneurysm long before it could harm.

4. PATRIOT - the newest - you get the art at 25% off AND we send part of the original price to YOUR choice of valid Veterans Group.

5. Art With Heart - if you opt to donate part of your purchase price to YOUR choice of valid Charity, there is an additional 20% off the sale price.  

If you can think of a worthy way to make our Artsale Transaction a thing that helps the world as well, let me know.   I donate work outright for selected events. Find me to talk about it, online or at my new office.  


War & Johnny Carson's Shirt Size

I was going to tell my happy  husband and Handsome Prince when we retired - a huge list of neat things women "keep in their hearts".  Fun things to share  when we were white-haired and satisfied, enjoying the view from the porch in our rocking chairs:  like why I watched  "The Tonight Show" with Johnny Carson long past the time one does.   Can't do that now.  He died before retirement. And so I must share it with you:

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My Nineleven Story 8:46 a.m. EST

 More than 5,000 dead.
"The September 11 attacks killed 2,996 people and injured more than 6,000 others. ...   Almost another 2500 have died, as of end 2013,  from related toxins on that day, including a dozen miscarriages of unborn.   Wikipedia     I cannot find an accurate tally of ANIMALS who died at WTC or later from toxic exposure diseases.    But this story about the few surviving  Search and Rescue Dogs there for days is helpful.

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Saga of a Little WhiteHouse - page one


The moon was full, the hour late, When the phone call came

Your Father's family homestead Has been consumed by flame! 

The folks are safe, the fire put out;  but don't,  just yet, come 'round - 

Since we're all adjusting To the house done down to ground. 

Not quite a hundred years ago, On a finer day, 

Big Jim Smith, "The Chief", had brought his "Else" To live and love and stay! 

His six-foot-four, her four-foot-six, Borne lightly in his arms, 

Would work, and bear, and laugh and fight And work the little farm. 

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Presidential Election Day Nov 8, 2016

Last year's election campaign rattled me quite a bit, and I published a blog entry saying I could do better.    A year and a half later, I am calm and even appeased.  God Bless you President Donald J. Trump and I DID vote for you, misgivings notwithstanding, because I know we can Make America Great Again with you at the helm.

Politics has NOTHING to do with good government and yet we take it that way every election time for the esprit - our lives and the lives of our children are at stake and we "mostly show up and make noise".  Esprit is important in the world arena and in the hearts of voters, but there is so much more!    I have campaigned for my candidates and almost always either donate art for the fundraisers or  make the 500 phone calls.  I donate cash when I have it. I BELIEVE !

But too often , after election day, ours is  such a poor show that if we fail, it will most likely be about audience disinterest.    

We are government of, for and by the people.   That means we must DO something - a bit each day, week, month , year.  Not just casting a poorly-informed vote.  We think we can cave into citizens' cynicism and nothing bad will happen, but plenty bad does happen every day in this country from citizen disinterest.   

  We can bring a government to life and we can kill it.     THAT is the bottom line of "Government of, for and by the people. " 

 I think you should "Vote for Elle" as they said in Legally Blonde 2.   But this President is doing some things right!       When it's my turn, I am keeping this list, with insights , corrections and updates.  Comment welcome.


Why vote for ELLE SMITH FAGAN  -  she is America.

Glorying in the fact that she was a nice kind of typical Norman Rockwell American girl.  A super  background full of the best and worst and met with character, ingenuity, action and great love. The kind of childhood that encourages a person to be an adult who is ABLE to do a few things.

Her platform?  

  • Make America Great Again  happens with people who have some appreciation of our great land and will ACT to restore America's self-esteem:  travel restrictions;  EARNING the right to become American, restoring basic citizenship development for all in the schools, churches and community daily life
  • Money can be a winner again - balance the books as with any other group; give modestly  till we are in the black and then resume better generosity;  collect debts responsibly;  OWN the casinos - adds a lot of money and subtracts a lot of crime in that realm ; prisons CAN be self-supporting , which teaches integrity to all involved and provides enough cash to allow law enforcement to apprehend and  imprison as needed and not let things go by.
  • Clean and Green - laws to require cleanups of abandoned places and greenspace restored. This upgrades both public health and wealth and reduces crime that seeks the dark and dirty corners. Population life expectancy will improve with less disease.
  • Honesty and disclosure.  It's our country and digitization means we CAN be better informed and easily with even daily referendums on issues on our block, in our town and in our state and nation.
  • Thinking out of the box to optimize the box -    - world peace is not a joke   - police and soldiers have no reason to get lethal MOST of the time and  must wear armor and show at least the intelligence of the medieval knight...suicide is illegal.  Occupant Safety & Escape Tech that should have been done by our bi-centennial needs to be done NOW - safe supported ejection is very affordable and do-able - and tons better than Nineleven was for us.    
  • Health and life quality - has been crippled by bad attitude and uproar since it's start because it was new, but nottanymore; we can enjoy better success for all sides with comprehensive coverage - accepting dental and mental and family coverage as equal to other basic medical, since they allll surely kill if failed.     
  • Right to life / humanity - there is no longer any need for Abortion:  Church and State are on the same page. Birth control and the safe morning after teas and over-the-counter meds fix the issue, and there is the fact that today's Equal Rights Woman MUST take Equal Responsibility as in all other places in life.   If a woman becomes pregnant she bears the child and lets it be raised with our without her.  Society has come to accept the unmarried pregnant person as part of today's norm.   She can do her life happily, before during and afterward, knowing she has done the best thing.  We must never denying a life we have created.   
  • Thought word and deed - we are inundated by media never dreamed of by previous generations - we need to clean it up. Some images and words NO ONE should see or hear.   Do not say it is not our responsibility because it is.  When our nation sags the language degenerates and people swear more and use poor word choices..."kid" instead of "child' ...etc....these things are easy to fix...let's


 A simple list that WORKS for other nations and would work for us easily if we were not determined to be blockheads on the subject:  

FINALLY:    feel good and strong...
WE CAN FIX things because of our wonderful empowering and adaptable Constitution.  

 We DO, in our humanity,  buy our issues with both hands and we DO then expect respect when we merely react to these issues like hysterics and refuse to confront and win - and  "set it back to rights" .

We need to continue in equal rights on the basis of any criteria.  One bully is the same as another.

Our nation, The United States of America, was and is the best ever dreamt of, bled for and won!  

We have no right to neglect her to death!  


Vote for Elle and at least that much will be better.



Summer Reading

But this is about biographies - a huge thank you!    Since girlhood I seem to reach for biographical reading whenever I am "in a brown study" over things, wanting a job or project, grieving, sluggish for emotional or physical reasons, in flux and lost.  Somehow Biographies do the trick, when I must be still,  my heroes swashbuckle for me ... (more)

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Apple Watch Saved Another Life - Mine

Since an accident years ago I use a tracker to make sure I am self-managing right. 


Now, at upper-midlife ,  I added Apple Watch at my birthday a few weeks ago, to my Apple devices.....Time, Heart rate, Blood Pressure and all fitness tracking and waterproof for my pool aerobics and laps. GPS and 911 and phone on board - YES.


I was singing "Getting to know you" to my Watch, while prepping in my large work area, indoors, for the big Spring shows...I am in arts.  The fume-y solvent to shine the frame was usually used outdoors, but it was just a small fix - a few minutes indoors with fumes I love would not hurt me.  But then a stubborn spot on the antique frame made me  put away one solvent and reach for a second  one - I thought I'd waited long enough between fume exposure...no.
Without realizing it.  I was "woozy" and did not feel my body reacting.   Then,  in my peripheral vision I saw my  Apple Watch flashing large and red - 208bpm -  in big numbers on the watch face.  The device was new, and I thought " what error code is this?"  then realized Apple Watch  was NOT popping and error code - it was an emergency warning!   Big numbers in red and hapticks of which i was unaware.   I felt fiiiiiiiine  - love fumes -  but  I would NOT feel fine for long.    

Immediately!  Nearby exhaust Fan on, caps on the solvent and me out the door in ten seconds flat, for fresh air!  

Heart rate , BPM went right back down 68 in one minute thanks to good fitness.  

As I calmed down I began to share my experience to warn others and to praise APPLE .  Next I thought:  I'll bet I am NOT the only one who was saved by their Apple Watch.    I  found a site online in search that talked about it - YES others were saying,  "Apple Watch saved my life!"    

Many of them sent a thank you to Apple CEO Tim Cook, so I did that and shared also at my AppleWatch Facebook Group.   

Thanks to all the factors in my "little bad moment" and especially to  Apple Watch....for what did NOT happen.

Sharing  the story not just to praise APPLE, but to pas this on for a summer safety reminder.    HAVE FUN BUT STAY SAFE !

A President Born on Flag Day


After one busy day, I came in from our son's  Scouts meeting, putting away the folded flag for the day and to my husband smiled wearily:  
"Old Den Mothers never die...they just always know when Flag Day is ! "    Today's NYTimes Flag Day story updates us on the subject.
... and now, I  will always know when it is President Donald John Trump's Birthday as well - since they share the June 14th  day !     Former Presdient Bush, a.k.a , "43" , celebrates his birthday on July 6th during the Independence Day Celebration.  

 "Shirt off his back" - paper, water media, plexiglass   9x12in.  2017  © elle fagan

"Shirt off his back" - paper, water media, plexiglass   9x12in.  2017  © elle fagan

Wow!   If nothing else, the American Sprit draws some worthy leaders with fun coincidences !

My Godfather was a soldier with Corps of Engineers in the Battle of the Bulge in WWII. Sarge " Brought 'em home alive", they said, about him and his men.   He hated all war, but "If we must fight, we must WIN!" was the slogan.   Till their last days, the American Flag flew at "The Little White House" family homestead.   I can see them, smiling , raIsing and lowering the flag as the "order of the day" commanded.   Uncle Bill in USACE veterean, in Connecticut,  from Dad's side of the family and Uncle Mike USMC WWII in Maryland,  from Mother's side would regale us with their repartee about whose flagpole was higher and who was "working too hard" at it all, or not.    When praised for their patriotism, they would often reply with the famous quote from General MacArthur: "Old Soldiers Never Die - they just fade away...."    and when my husband served Corps of Engineers as a commissioned officer with USACE as well, special ops, Black Diamonds, Viet Nam,  getting rid of Agent Orange,  they felt so honored and proud of him, and me, since  I saw my first wartime red cross work at that time.
God Bless President Trump and ALL our Presidents, in deep appreciation of their work for us.

  And one more flag-folding demo from me.   Please let's appreciate the miracle we are and share it in every good way!

Memorial Day

Sometimes, when we are moved to tears at occasions like today, we are truly "tapping the brakes" - releasing some small bit of the larger emotions, so as not to die from them when they come to our door.  

 Poppies Flanders Field Poem shared here as well.

Poppies Flanders Field Poem shared here as well.

 Memorial Day - When I was a girl the little paper flowers, sold for a dollar by VFW and AL,  were part of the Memorial Day excitement for me !  The music and marching bands were nice of course, and the gathering of family and picnic later,  but for a LITTLE person, the special LITTLE poppies and forget-me-nots won the moment, for a moment, off and on, all day long and sometimes saved in my room at day's end.     My seven Irish Uncles..all proud AL members after WWII , would smile at me and call me "Miss Memorial Day" - I was six.   Fairfield was nickname heaven and one more nickname was fine with me. I smiled back, and hugged.

Later I learned, as I honor, with pride and sorrow, the passing of loved ones -  the idea was no accident but inspired by Flanders Field in WWI   - here is a brief account http://www.mcall.com/opinion/white/blog/mc-memorial-day-poppies-20170526-story.html

"In Flanders Field  " 
by Col.John McCrae of the Canadian forces, before the US entered WWI.  

In Flanders fields the poppies blow
Between the crosses, row on row,
That mark our place; and in the sky
The larks, still bravely singing, fly
Scarce heard amid the guns below.

We are the Dead. Short days ago
We lived, felt dawn, saw sunset glow,
Loved and were loved, and now we lie
In Flanders fields.

Take up our quarrel with the foe:
To you from failing hands we throw
The torch; be yours to hold it high.
If ye break faith with us who die
We shall not sleep, though poppies grow
In Flanders fields.

Quoting from the article:  
"  In this century alone, more than 619,000 American men and women lost their lives in armed conflict while fighting for their country. More than 1.1 million were wounded -- many of them maimed or disabled for the rest of their lives. These men and women were our neighbors, our sons, daughters, mothers, fathers, sisters, brothers, husbands and wives. Thirty-five million more Americans served, fought and survived this century's wars.

Buy a poppy - and support all those who served and are no longer with us.  Exult - rejoice - they were proud to serve and served well and As Lincoln declared at Gettysburg, gave "the highest measure of devotion".     Love - all love - is risk and challenge,  and sometimes the pain of injury or loss - not just kisses, parties and parades.  Ohhhhh but worth it!    

story credit:  Bill White, The Morning Call, Saturday May 26th 2018 

Mothers Day 2018 - Glowing

Funny Mothers Day this year - the first since the passing of our Mother, joyfully, at 92.   But I am May-born and a believer, and so I prayed and got busy and, at day's end today, I am glad I did.  A  day - even one day- is worth saving!    Able to think and remember all the Mothers Days, so far, along my timeline and looking for many more.

Grateful beyond words for the sunny days with two parents who cared and were bright and "up to something" all the time.  They had suffered and made it thru, so now, no bells and whistles should be omitted, to rejoice in the triumph and re-store ourselves, making good memories, to sustain us for the inevitable challenges ahead.  

I remember Mama - the popular tv show with Peggy Wood in my littlegirl days, comes to mind:

  • Mothers Day, late 40s - Dad and I bringing breakfast in bed and dinner out, and flowers and treats to my Mother.
  • Mother and I visiting her Mother's gravesite and praying and placing flowers and then treats of comfort as we'd listen to Mother's story of Gram's life and passing.
  • Mothers Days in the 50s were more:  First Communions were done on Mothers Days and first me and then my brother and later our sister filled the day in those years with God's special graces and excuses for fun and parties...and easy prayers.
  • Mother-Daughter dresses and maybe a bowtie to match for our brother made the other years as much fun or better, as we'd enjoy Church and special dinners and family gatherings at the homestead of my Dad and his many siblings, regaling the aging Gram and Gramps with true hearts.  LIFE...this is what is about  - all we do supports life.
  • Mothers Days in the 60s got tense - health fixes on all sides created money setbacks and worse at times, but , especially when challenged, we were sure to mark Mothers Day well...and soon...
  • My Handsome Prince and I married and off to war and back and our first , a son, born at Fort Knox, Kentucky, (where all the gold sources, but not as golden as his hair, then).  And our party for the men's return from war ran so long into the night, that the Mothers Day visit to Gram's was surreal, with my first Mothers Day finding me in very dark sunglasses, blushing in shame for the over-party the night before.  
  • Then in the 70s, off again to Corporate work in NY and North Carolina and into our stride as parents, with a pioneer BirthingRoom baby sister for our son.  Once over the transplant shock, alll holidays were Heaven  - we were so grateful to have survived wars and childbirth and jockeying for good work paths, that we gave every bit of us we could with hearts full of powerful love and gratitude!   Each year we'd create for our little family, one more tradition to celebrate the modest happy us!    Breakfast in bed, flowers, our favorite scent, dinner out and an outing "en famille" and singing "Yes - we're a perfectly ordinary, ordinarily perfect fammm-i- leeee!" from "Sesame Street" on the ride home.
  • Endless summer, followed by sudden winter found the children and myself on our own and grieving the loss of their Father, now in Heaven.  We were so good all those years and I was powerfully proud of the children and twice-committed to their complete recovery because they earned it with their loving and feisty approach and cooperation in winning thru the challenge.  We made every holiday a bit special with one idea or other , while holding onto each beloved tradition TWOTIMES for the setback, to be sure to restore it all.   Mothers Days in the 80s-90s were a miracle - and easier every year, as the grief gave way to our waters running clear and strong again....and with the good fun never omitted.
  • Mothers Days at Y2K got confusing - we felt we were on an even keel again when life brought some new challenges and me disabled in an accident.  From that point on, the relationship between me and our children seemed to veer from one extreme to another for some time, but still the feeling of bonding and more was easily there.   All was soon made much better and fine again, but not for forever - again.
  • The unexpected happened: I recovered from injuries family politics and slander on a lady without a sin to her name, let alone any abuse or worse.....all things fine on all paths once more and the sun shining so nicely!   Wow - great , came in, in all directions, including our children but soon after, they both married, with no word to me , living distantly and are currently honeymooning.  

I am so very pleased at their finding a love for their lives, after the usual  "growth experiences" in dating and relationships!    After a lot of disorientation at their NON-traditional style, I went jogging again and am enjoying my life in many new ways and restoring business and income, with restored heart and soul, and fine friends who made the day JUST as special as ever! 

I think NEXT Mothers Day may see them showing up to show off their new selves and, though they are part of the trend to later marriages, I do hope they retained their great love for family and children and, if they cannot become parents in the traditional path, perhaps surrogate or adoption would work?  I know their way is grand. I know our challenges leave touchy spots, but for every loss there was recuperation and triumph, so I do believe in their future riches in heart and health, MY GIFT TO THEM ALWAYS - as their Dad would call it - "the good stuff".   

 Mothers Day 1976 - Proud BiCentennials  Peter and Amanda being noble and good!

Mothers Day 1976 - Proud BiCentennials
Peter and Amanda being noble and good!